procedures of politeness A gentle follow up email to see if the previous was acknowledged. Then if that goes unanswered, another email indicating the timeline of the project- a more forceful gesture. Then if that's unanswered the final is direct, something like 'we need a reply on this'. Follow professionalisation and learn to say no to projects, focus on one task, understand your limits. Hone in early on your critique. Develop friendships with peers who are both developing similar practices as well as those who have already developed. Make these associations apparent.